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Leaning Into Mercy: The Invitation to a Clean Heart

Marriage is a great teacher. Sometimes the hardest. Sometimes the wisest.

If you’ve been married for any length of time, you know relationships only work when you fully lean into one another with mercy. You can’t keep score. You can’t file mental receipts every time your spouse messes up. Because if you do, it becomes a ledger of resentment instead of love.

That’s exactly what the Bible talks about in 1 Corinthians 13 when it says love does not keep a record of wrongs. It’s not a naive rule. It’s a practical truth about human relationships. Mercy is the grease that keeps the gears running smoothly.

And that’s what Psalm 51 invites us to experience. Not just in marriage, but in all areas of our life.

God doesn’t just slap a sticker on our mistakes and call it good. That’s cosmetic. That’s like spraying perfume on a dirty heart. Real mercy goes deeper.

Mercy, by definition, is not getting the bad we deserve. It’s not receiving the punishment or consequences we truly earned. Grace, on the other hand, is getting the good we don’t deserve. The positive blessings that we never could earn on our own.

Psalm 51 isn’t about shame. It’s about a clean heart. It’s about God offering a deep, thorough cleaning of the parts of us that are broken, wounded, or hardened. And the invitation is for us to lean in and receive it.

Think about marriage again. When you truly lean into your spouse with mercy, the relationship doesn’t just survive. It thrives. There’s freedom, trust, and space for growth. You stop being defined by your mistakes. And the same goes for your spouse.

God is inviting us into that same type of relationship: a relationship grounded in mercy. A place where our mess doesn’t disqualify us, and where a clean heart is possible.

So today, pause and ask yourself: Am I holding onto grudges, against others or even myself, that are keeping me from experiencing mercy? Am I leaning in fully, allowing God to clean the heart that only He can reach?

The amazing truth here is that when God cleanses a heart, it’s not surface level. It’s deep, it’s thorough, and it changes how we relate to others and ourselves. Mercy isn’t weak. It’s powerful. It’s transformative.

Lean in. Let it happen. Because a clean heart is the foundation for living fully, freely, and with genuine love.

Come and See Your Need

There’s something unsettling about Ash Wednesday.

We walk forward. We kneel or maybe we stand. A thumb presses into our foreheads. Dust mixed with oil is smeared on us. And we hear words we spend the rest of the year trying to avoid:

You are dust, and to dust you shall return.

No filters. No catchy spin. No branding strategy. Just reality.

And if we’re honest, most of us don’t like reality when it strips us down that far.

We prefer curated strength. Polished faith. Manageable struggles. We want a Jesus who enhances our lives, not one who exposes how desperately we need Him.

But Ash Wednesday refuses to play that game.

The ashes are not there to shame us. They simply tell the truth. You are not self-sustaining. You are not invincible. You are not in control. Your body will age. Your strength will fade. Your plans will unravel. And beneath the busyness and bravado, you are more fragile than you’ll ever admit.

That’s not morbid. That’s merciful.

Because until we face our need, we will never reach for grace.

Lent begins when pretending ends.

It begins when the successful professional admits the anxiety is real. When the exhausted mom whispers that she can’t keep carrying it all. When the pastor confesses that he, too, wrestles with doubt and pride. When the teenager realizes popularity can’t quiet loneliness. When the strong one finally says, “I’m not okay.”

Ashes level us.

They remind us that sin isn’t just out there in the headlines. It’s in here in our impatience, ego, lust, greed, resentment, self-righteousness, comparison, secret bitterness. It’s in the subtle belief that we can manage life without daily surrender.

And the truth? We can’t.

We are dust. And dust doesn’t fix itself.

But there’s a whisper of beauty in the ashes of Ash Wednesday: the ashes are placed in the shape of a cross.

Death is spoken. But hope is outlined.

The same God who formed Adam from dust stepped into dust Himself. Jesus didn’t avoid our frailty. He took it on. He walked toward our mortality. He carried our sin. He entered our grave. Not symbolically. Actually.

Ash Wednesday tells the truth about us. Good Friday tells the truth about God.

He doesn’t recoil at our weakness. He moves toward it.

When the ashes mark your forehead, they are not just a reminder of what you are. They are a reminder of whose you are. You belong to the One who went into the ground and walked out again.

Lent is not a spiritual self-improvement program. It’s not about proving your devotion with stricter habits or impressive discipline. It’s about coming back to the basics:

I am dust.
I am a sinner.
I need a Savior.

And I have One.

Honest self-awareness opens the door to transformation. Not self-hatred. Not despair. But honesty. The kind that says, “Without Jesus, I am lost.” And the kind that hears Him whisper back, “With Me, you are found.”

Ash Wednesday is an invitation.

Come and see your need.

Not to wallow in it.
Not to be crushed by it.
But to let it lead you to the cross.

Because when you finally stop pretending you’re strong enough, you discover something better: Grace.

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