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If It’s a Stewardship Crisis… Then Let’s Start Acting Like Stewards

The response to my last post has been a little loud.

Some people were grateful.
Some were uncomfortable.
Some were frustrated.
Some flat did not like what I had to say.

And frankly all of those answers are good.

Because if we’re honest, we don’t need more agreement. We need movement.

So let’s move the conversation forward.

If this really is a stewardship crisis… then what do we actually do about it?

Not in theory. Not some vague encouragement.

But in real, tangible, actionable ways that help churches take faithful next steps.

First. Let’s Be Clear About What This Is Not

This is not about:

  • Forcing churches to close
  • Strong-arming congregations into mergers
  • Shaming smaller churches
  • Or acting like bigger automatically means better

That’s not the goal. The goal is faithfulness.

And faithfulness requires intentional stewardship of people, pastors, buildings, and the mission.

The Shift We Need

We have to move from:

Reactive → Intentional
Isolated → Supported
Preservation → Mission

Right now, too many congregations are left to figure this out alone. So they stall. Or they avoid hard conversations. Or they default to “just keep going.”

Not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what else to do.

That’s where we need to change (or modify) the system.

What If We Actually Supported Churches Through This?

Not just with funding. Not just with prayers. Although we definitely need to be continually praying! But with real, hands-on, structured support.

I’m the kind of person who doesn’t just say there’s a problem and not offer a potential solution. So here’s a crack at what this could look like:

1. Deploy Real Transition Teams

Imagine if congregations didn’t have to navigate this alone.

Instead, trained teams made up of experienced pastors, lay leaders, and district support staff could step in to help churches. They would

  • Assess current health and mission alignment
  • Facilitate honest conversations (the ones no one wants to lead)
  • Walk leadership through options: revitalization, partnership, merger, or even closure
  • Keep the focus on Gospel impact not just institutional survival

This is not about outsiders dictating decisions. This is about guides helping congregations discern faithfully.

2. Normalize and Resource Church-to-Church Partnerships

Not every church needs to close. Let me say that very clearly so the people in the back don’t get their undies in a bunch.

Not every church needs to close!

But many shouldn’t stay isolated.

We should be actively encouraging:

  • Shared staffing models (one pastor or commissioned worker serving multiple congregations)
  • Ministry partnerships between neighboring churches
  • Campus-style expansions where one healthy church adopts another location
  • Leadership pipelines shared across congregations

We don’t need fewer churches. We need more connected churches.

3. Create a “Best Practices” Playbook for Hard Conversations

Right now, every church facing decline feels like they’re the first ones to ever go through it. News flash friends! They’re not.

So why aren’t we equipping them better?

We need a clear, accessible resource that walks congregations through:

  • How to recognize when change is necessary
  • How to lead a healthy congregational conversation
  • What a faithful merger process actually looks like
  • How to navigate closure with dignity, care, and Gospel clarity
  • Legal, financial, and property considerations
  • How to care for members emotionally and spiritually through transition

Not more theory. Real steps. Real timelines. Real examples.

4. Activate Existing Synod and District Resources

We don’t necessarily need to build something new. We need to better deploy what we already have.

There are leaders at the district and synod levels with wisdom, experience, and capacity. But too often, their role is reactive instead of proactive. They are spending far too much time behind desks when they could be sitting with pastors and church leaders. They could be listening. Encouraging and connecting right there in the communities that are struggling.

What if:

  • Every struggling congregation had a clear, accessible pathway to support
  • District leaders regularly initiated conversations instead of waiting for crisis
  • Resources were streamlined and digitized instead of scattered and still in binders in some basement
  • Churches knew exactly who to call and what help would actually look like

Support shouldn’t feel distant or bureaucratic.

It should feel present, personal, and practical.

5. Fund Strategy, Not Just Survival

Money isn’t the primary issue, but how we use it matters.

Instead of defaulting to, “Let’s help them stay open a little longer…”

What if we prioritized:

  • Funding for transition teams
  • Grants for merger or relaunch processes
  • Support for leadership coaching during major change
  • Investment in church plants or revitalization efforts tied to legacy churches

Not bailout money. Mission-focused investment.

6. Tell Better Stories

Right now, closures and mergers feel like failure. So churches avoid them.

But what if we told different stories? Stories of:

  • Two churches coming together and reaching more people than either could alone
  • A legacy congregation blessing a new church plant in their community
  • A faithful closure that led to Kingdom impact beyond what anyone expected

We need to redefine what success looks like. Because the Gospel isn’t measured in how long something stays open.

It’s measured in lives reached.

This Is About Courage Together

No single church should have to carry this weight alone. And no congregation should feel like their only options are: “Stay the same” or “shut down.”

There is a better way. But this better way requires:

  • Courage from congregational leaders
  • Initiative from district leadership
  • Collaboration across local congregations
  • And a shared commitment to the mission over the model

Final Thought

If we really believe the Church exists to reach people with the Gospel, then we have to be willing to structure ourselves around that mission.

Not around comfort.
Not around history.
Not around buildings.

Around people who don’t yet know Jesus.

We don’t need to panic.

We don’t need to force outcomes.

But we do need to act like stewards.

Because the mission is too important not to.


Next week, I want to take a deeper dive into a few of these pathways. We’ll look at what they actually look like on the ground, and how churches can begin taking first steps.

The Right Side of the Boat

There’s a moment most people hit eventually.

You’ve been grinding. Showing up. Doing what you know how to do.

And it’s not working.

Not a little slow. Nothing. No traction. No payoff. Just effort disappearing into the dark.

That’s where this story starts.

A group of guys go out to fish, something they’ve done their whole lives. This isn’t new territory. This is their lane. And still… all night, nothing.

Empty.

If you’ve ever worked hard at something and watched it go nowhere, you already understand the scene.

Then morning comes. And from the shoreline, someone calls out:

“Catch anything?”

Nope.

“Try the right side of the boat.”

That’s it. No explanation. No credentials. Just a voice suggesting a small adjustment.

And somehow they listen.

That’s the part that should catch you. These aren’t amateurs. They know what they’re doing. But after a long night of getting nowhere, they still have enough humility left to try something different.

So they move the nets. And everything changes.

Suddenly more fish than they can handle. The kind of result that makes you stop and realize this is not luck.

Here’s the tension we need to feel. Most people don’t get stuck because they’re lazy.

They get stuck because they’re locked in.

Same habits. Same patterns. Same approach. Over and over again.

We call it consistency. Sometimes it’s just resistance to change.

Because these kind of adjustments feel small. It feels almost too simple to matter.

But that’s usually where the shift happens.

Not in some massive overhaul, but in a decision to listen when something, or someone, cuts through the noise and says, “Try it this way.”

The story turns when one of them realizes who’s on the shore. It’s Jesus.

And one of the guys, Peter, doesn’t hesitate. Doesn’t even think. He jumps straight into the water and heads to shore.

Because when something real shows up, you stop analyzing and start moving.

And when they get to shore, it’s not chaos. It’s calm. A fire’s already going. Food’s already cooking.

Here’s the twist: Jesus already has fish. He didn’t need theirs.

But he still tells them, “Bring some of what you caught.” That changes the whole angle.

This wasn’t about filling a gap. It wasn’t about proving themselves. It was an invitation.

Join me.

Be part of something.

That’s a different way to think about life. The pressure to perform, to produce, to make something happen. That’s heavy. But what if the point isn’t proving your worth?

What if it’s paying attention… and then responding?

So if you’ve been pushing hard and getting nowhere, maybe the answer isn’t more effort.

Maybe it’s a shift.

Listen again.

Try the other side.

It might not be about doing more.

It might be about doing something different and finally getting unstuck.

She Came for a Dead Man

It was still dark when Mary got there.

She wasn’t coming to celebrate. She wasn’t coming to see an empty tomb or meet a risen Savior. She was coming with spices and oils to do the final, heartbreaking work of honoring a dead body. She loved Jesus enough to show up in the dark to care for a corpse.

That’s where Easter actually begins.

Not with trumpets. Not with certainty. Not with bold faith.

With grief. With confusion. With someone just trying to do the next right thing in the dark.

When she found the stone rolled away, she didn’t think resurrection. She thought theft. That’s how shattered her expectations were. No category for hope. No framework for “He’s alive.” Just panic and pain.

And when she finally turned around and saw Jesus standing in the garden, she thought he was the gardener.

Let that sit for a second.

The same Jesus she followed. The same Jesus she listened to. The same Jesus she watched die.

Standing right in front of her… and she couldn’t see Him.

Because grief has a way of blinding you to what’s right in front of you.
Because sometimes what God is doing doesn’t fit what you expected Him to do.
Because resurrection rarely looks like what we thought it would.

And then he said her name.

“Mary.”

Just her name. The same voice. The same tone. The same way he’d always said it.

And everything broke open.

Not because she figured it out.
Not because she pieced the clues together.
Not because her faith was finally strong enough.

But because Jesus made it personal.

That’s the Easter story that doesn’t get preached enough.

We love the big moment. The victory. The empty tomb. The global impact. And all of that matters. But before any of that unfolds… there’s a quiet garden, a grieving woman, and a Savior who refuses to stay distant.

Before He appears to the eleven.
Before He sends the church.
Before the world changes…

He calls one person by name.

Because salvation isn’t just global.

It’s personal.

It always starts personal.

That’s why, in baptism, we don’t just say, “This one.” We ask for a name.

“How is this child to be named?”

Because this isn’t generic grace. This isn’t abstract forgiveness. This isn’t a vague promise floating out there for whoever might grab it.

This is Jesus, crucified and risen, looking at a specific person and saying: You.

“You are mine.”
“You are forgiven.”
“You are raised with me.”

That’s what He was doing in the garden.

And that’s what He’s still doing.

A lot of us are still standing in that same place Mary was.

Still carrying grief.
Still assuming the worst.
Still trying to make sense of a God who didn’t do what we thought He would do.
Still looking right at Him… and missing Him.

We come expecting silence.
We come expecting absence.
We come expecting a dead end.

But Easter says otherwise.

The stone is already rolled away.
The grave is already empty.
And the Savior you think is missing is closer than you realize.

You might not recognize Him right away.

You might still be stuck in the fog.

But don’t miss this:

He knows your name.

Not the version of you that you project.
Not the cleaned-up version you bring to church.
Not the highlight reel.

He knows you.

And He calls your name.

Through His Word.
Through the water.
Through the promise that hasn’t changed.

And when it finally clicks, when you hear Him, when it lands, when the fog lifts it’s not just a theological realization.

It’s a moment.

Everything breaks open.

Hope returns.
Grief loosens its grip.
And what felt like the end starts to look like the beginning.

Mary came looking for a dead man.

She got a living Savior who knew her name.

He knows yours too.

And He’s still calling it.

3 Words That Changed Everything

WE GOT HIM.
Three words that cut through chaos.

Somewhere deep in hostile territory, everything changed in a moment.
A downed pilot. Isolated. Vulnerable. Waiting. Hoping. Praying someone was coming.

Then the call came back over the radio:

We got him.

Mission accomplished.
Target secured.
Life saved.

Those three words ripple outward.
They hit a man first—you’re not alone anymore.
Then a family—he’s coming home.
Then an entire military machine—everything we did mattered.

We got him means the story isn’t over.
It means rescue beat ruin.
It means someone went in when it was dangerous, costly, and uncertain—and didn’t come back empty.


But this morning… there’s another three-word phrase.

Stronger.
Deeper.
More final.

HE IS RISEN.

Not “we found him.”
Not “we recovered him.”
Not “we got there just in time.”

No—this is different.

This wasn’t a rescue from danger.
This was victory over death itself.

Jesus wasn’t waiting to be saved.
He walked straight into the grave—and then walked out.

He is risen doesn’t just change one man.
It doesn’t just ripple through one family.
It doesn’t just impact one nation.

It changes everything.
For everyone.

Because if death doesn’t win…
then fear doesn’t win.
sin doesn’t win.
your past doesn’t win.


You want to know what Easter really is?

It’s God saying:

We got you.

You were down.
Lost.
Cut off.
Behind enemy lines called sin, shame, and death.

And instead of writing you off…
He came for you.

Not from a distance.
Not with words alone.

He stepped into your territory.
Took your place.
Fought your battle.

And when the stone rolled away, heaven declared:

He is risen.

Which means the mission worked.
It means the rescue is real.
It means you’re not stuck where you are.


So wherever you are this morning—
in a church seat,
on your couch,
in the middle of doubt,
or buried under the weight of your own story—

Hear this:

You can come home.

Because He is risen means the door is open.
The price is paid.
The path is clear.

And God is still in the business of saying:

We got him.
We got her.
We got you.


This isn’t just a holiday.

This is your rescue story.

He is risen.
And because of that…

You’re coming home.

You Came for This… But What If There’s More?

You ever go somewhere expecting one thing… and walk out with way more than you planned?

You run into a store for “just one thing”… and somehow leave with a full cart.
You order something simple… and they upgrade you for free.
You show up for a quick conversation… and it turns into something that actually changes you.

It’s unexpected.
Unplanned.
Better than what you came for.

But here’s the twist—most of us don’t actually like that feeling when it comes to life.

Because we want control.


We Like Clear Expectations

Most of us approach life—and even God—like a transaction.

“I’ll show up… if You do this.”
“I’ll believe… if this works out.”
“I’ll trust You… as long as it goes my way.”

We come in with a plan:

  • Fix this problem
  • Smooth out this relationship
  • Make life a little easier

And if we’re honest, we don’t want more

We want specific.


That’s Exactly What Happened on Palm Sunday

When Jesus rode into Jerusalem, the crowd thought they knew what was happening.

This was their moment.

They waved palm branches like victory flags.
They shouted for rescue.
They believed Jesus was about to flip the system and make their lives better—fast.

They weren’t looking for a Savior.

They were looking for a solution.


Jesus Doesn’t Do “Just Enough”

Here’s where everything flips.

Jesus didn’t come to meet their expectations.

He came to exceed them—on a completely different level.

They wanted a leader to fix their situation.
He came to fix the root of everything broken.

They wanted freedom from Rome.
He came to bring freedom from sin, shame, and death itself.

They wanted a win they could see.

He brought a victory that would last forever.


The Problem? It Didn’t Look Like “More”

Because “more” didn’t feel better in the moment.

It looked like tension.
It looked like confusion.
It looked like a cross.

And that’s where this gets uncomfortably real.

Because we do the same thing.


When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned

You pray for clarity… and get silence.
You ask for relief… and things get harder.
You want a quick fix… and instead you’re in a process.

It’s easy to assume: This isn’t working.

But what if…

What if you didn’t get less?

What if you actually got more—just not in the way you expected?


The Kind of Faith That Changes You

Real faith isn’t about getting what you asked for.

It’s about trusting that what God is doing is bigger than what you asked for.

Even when:

  • It takes longer
  • It feels harder
  • It doesn’t make sense yet

Because sometimes the thing you wanted fixed…
is actually connected to something deeper that needs healed.

And Jesus doesn’t do surface-level.


So Here’s the Question

Are you open to more…

Or are you stuck on what you expected?

Because you can hold tightly to your version of how life should go…

Or you can trust that Jesus might be doing something better than you can currently see.


You might have come looking for a quick answer.

But what if He’s offering something deeper?
Something lasting?
Something that actually changes you?

Not less.

More.

Just not what you planned.

No Moderate Importance

There’s a line from C. S. Lewis that doesn’t leave you much room to hide:

“Christianity, if false, is of no importance, and if true, is of infinite importance. The only thing it cannot be is of moderate importance.”

Here’s the problem: Most people don’t reject Jesus. They just reduce Him.


We Don’t Deny Jesus. We Shelf Him

Nobody wakes up and says, “I’m going to walk away from Jesus today.”

Instead, we slowly rearrange things.

We give Him a place… just not the place.

He gets:

  • an hour on Sunday
  • a quick prayer when things feel shaky
  • a passing thought when life gets heavy

But when it comes to real life? We’re still in charge.

We make the calls.
We set the direction.
We control the outcomes.

Jesus is included…
but He’s not leading.

That’s what “moderate importance” actually looks like.

And unfortunately, it’s way more common than we want to admit.


The Tension We Try to Avoid

Here’s what we don’t like. If Jesus is who He says He is, then He doesn’t fit into your life. He takes it over.

That’s the part we resist.

Because we want Jesus to help our life work better not redefine it completely.

We want peace… without surrender.
Purpose… without disruption.
Grace… without change.

But that version of Jesus doesn’t exist.


You don’t need more information about Jesus.

You’ve got enough.

You’ve heard it.
You’ve read it.
You’ve sat in rooms where it’s been explained.

That’s not the issue. The issue is what you’ve done with it. Because at some point, more input isn’t growth. It’s avoidance.


You Already Know Where This Hits

You don’t need a list from me. You already know the places in your life Jesus has been kept at a distance.

It’s that area where you say:

  • “I’ll figure this out”
  • “I know what’s best here”
  • “This isn’t a big deal”

It’s your:

  • money
  • habits
  • relationships
  • private thoughts
  • hidden struggles

It’s the places where you want Jesus to be present but not in control. That’s the place we call the shelf.


The Real Issue Isn’t Doubt

We like to make this about questions.

“I’m just not sure…”
“I’m still figuring things out…”
“I need more clarity…”

Sometimes that’s real. But a lot of the time? It’s cover. Because the deeper issue isn’t “Is Jesus real?” It’s:

“Do I actually want Him to lead?”

That’s a much harder question. Because if the answer is yes then things have to change.


Control Is the Real Competition

Let’s just call it what it is. The biggest competitor for Jesus in your life isn’t atheism.

It’s control.

We want to run things the way we want them run. We don’t feel like we’re in control at work or at home or on the ball field so we’ll control the things we think we can control.

We want to decide what matters.
We want to define what’s right.
We want to protect what’s ours.

And Jesus steps into that and says:

“That’s not how this works friend.”

Not harshly.
But clearly.

You don’t get partial authority with Jesus.


At some point, everyone runs into the same moment: You either keep Jesus in a manageable space, or you let Him take over the parts you’ve been protecting.

There isn’t a middle ground that actually works. You can pretend there is for a while. A long while, even.

But eventually it shows up:

  • in your anxiety
  • in your relationships
  • in your restlessness
  • in that constant feeling that something’s off

Because you weren’t designed to be your own authority.


So What Do You Do With This?

This isn’t about “trying harder.”

Not about “being better.”

That’s not the move that works here. The move is honesty. Brutal, uncomfortable honesty. Where has Jesus been moderately important? Where have you kept control? Where have you said, “You can have this but not that”?

This is a great place to start. Because following Jesus doesn’t begin with perfection. It begins with surrender.


Off the Shelf

If Christianity is false, then none of this matters. Walk away. Do something else.

But if it’s true. If Jesus really is who He says He is, then He doesn’t belong on a shelf.

He belongs at the center.

Not part of your life.
All of it.

Not occasionally.
Constantly.

Not when it’s easy.
Even when it costs you.

No moderate importance.

He’s either everything. Or He’s nothing. He won’t ever be just something.

7 Signs a Church is Struggling and How We Thrive Anyway

I recently came across an email from Carey Nieuwhof listing seven signs that a church is struggling. Reading through them made me breathe a little easier because this is not the church I serve. I am beyond blessed by some powerful leaders, selfless servants, bold brothers and compassionate sisters in Christ.

But these signs are real challenges for many churches, and we can learn a lot by looking at them head-on. Let’s break them down one by one and talk about what thriving looks like instead.


1. Leaders Losing Their Passion

The struggle: When pastors or leaders go through the motions, you feel it in the pews. Worship becomes routine, ministry feels stale. Sermons drone on. Songs have no energy or joy. Even the air in the room feels heavy.

Our response: At Living Word Galena, we prioritize spiritual vitality. Leaders are encouraged to feed their own relationship with Jesus first. We do this because you can’t pour from an empty cup. Passion is contagious, and we guard it fiercely. Every leader and staff member (paid and volunteer) is encouraged to spend time in Scripture, attend worship for personal spiritual gain, set healthy boundaries for commitments and service.

Action step: Encourage ongoing personal devotion, retreats, and coaching for leaders. Protect the sacred space where God fuels our fire.


2. Fear of Innovation and Change

The struggle: Sticking to “the way we’ve always done it” may feel safe, but safe doesn’t grow God’s Kingdom. Doing what we’ve done will get us what we’ve got and not a whole lot more.

Our response: We embrace creativity in worship, ministry, and outreach. From KidConnect to Littles Connect, and our growth groups, we experiment boldly while staying rooted in Scripture. This isn’t about changing things for change sake. It’s about seeing the needs in the congregation and community and with strong biblical confidence meeting those needs with creativity and passion.

Action step: Celebrate small wins, pilot new ideas, and view failures as learning opportunities not disasters. Innovation isn’t optional; it’s essential for life in Christ. New doesn’t mean the old was bad. Actually if you can build something new on the foundation of something existing, you’re setting yourself up for great success!


3. Church Management Replacing Church Leadership

The struggle: Paperwork, budgets, and meetings can easily take over the heart of leadership and leave serving people in the shadows.

Our response: We structure leadership so that mission drives management, not the other way around. Every decision starts with “Does this help families encounter Jesus?” We evaluate our building needs, worship space, instrumentation, A/V set up, building temperature, date of events…all of it is done through this lens. Does this help someone connect with Jesus more fully? Having the right framework for evaluation prevents the tail from wagging the dog!

Action step: Delegate administrative tasks, empower leaders to focus on shepherding and vision, and keep ministry first.


4. Maintenance Overtaking the Mission

The struggle: When we focus on fixing buildings, finances, or programs over reaching people, the church slowly stagnates.

Our response: Maintenance matters. That’s a given. But it can never happen at the expense of ministry. We balance stewardship with innovation, ensuring every effort serves the mission of helping people experience Jesus’ grace.

Action step: Audit your priorities. Ask: “Does this investment of time, energy, and money bring people closer to Jesus?” Be willing to do some radical things to lower maintenance for the sake of the mission. If the building is more important than the mission, then you have the wrong god already. Pause and think that one over.


5. Fixation on a Singular Personality or Talent

The struggle: Worship isn’t about one gifted singer. Leadership isn’t about one charismatic pastor. Churches that revolve around personalities crumble when those individuals leave.

Our response: We strive for team ministry. From volunteers to staff to small group leaders, everyone plays a role in helping families grow in Christ. Our goal is to give the ministry away. We give authority not permission. Authority has a clear lane in which to function whereas permission is task focused.

Action step: Develop leadership pipelines. Train, mentor, and release others so the mission isn’t dependent on one person.


6. Criticizing Younger, Upstart Leaders

The struggle: Skepticism toward fresh ideas or young leaders kills momentum before it even begins.

Our response: We invest in emerging leaders. Youth, new members, and first-time ministry leaders are encouraged to step up, experiment, and make mistakes in a safe environment. We truly believe that new reaches new. We’re not afraid to bring new faces into our teams. And young voices are always welcome!

Action step: Ask younger leaders for their vision, give them space to lead, and mentor them instead of dismissing them.


7. Personal Relationships with God on the Back Burner

The struggle: Programs, events, and strategies are useless if our hearts aren’t burning with God’s presence.

Our response: Everything begins with intimacy with Jesus. Worship, prayer, Bible study, and personal growth are non-negotiables. We cannot lead people closer to God if we are running on autopilot. No one is an island so we do a lot in community. Everyone is encouraged to be part of a group or team around the church. We take this very seriously.

Action step: Model spiritual disciplines. Make personal connection with Jesus visible and a top priority in every ministry conversation.


The Bottom Line

These seven struggles aren’t inevitable. They’re choices. And at Living Word Galena, we choose passion over apathy, mission over maintenance, innovation over fear, and Jesus over everything else.

The result? A church where leaders thrive, families grow, and the good news spreads far beyond the walls of our building.

If you’re a church leader here are two questions for you to ponder:

Which of these seven struggles could your church be facing? And how can you step into the solution today?

Because a thriving church isn’t about avoiding struggle. It’s about responding with faith, courage, and relentless focus on Jesus.

Meeting Grace at the Well

He’s is tired, walking through Samaria, and stops at a well. A woman comes to draw water, alone in the heat of the day. She probably thought she was invisible. But Jesus sees her.

Not just her. Her whole story. Her mistakes. Her shame. Her loneliness. And He doesn’t lecture her. He doesn’t condemn. He invites her: “Come, drink. Live.”

Think about how radical this was. He’s a Jewish Rabbi talking to a Samaritan woman. A woman of questionable reputation. Culture said they shouldn’t even speak. Yet Jesus breaks the rules. Grace doesn’t wait for permission. Grace doesn’t care about status, race, gender, or reputation. Grace just shows up.

And the well? It’s not random. In the Old Testament, wells are where life meets love. Rebekah met Isaac at a well. Jacob met Rachel at a well. Wells were places of connection, of covenant, of new beginnings. Here, Jesus is offering the same but bigger. He’s offering living water. He’s offering a life that quenches thirst forever, not just for this woman, but for anyone who’s lonely, isolated, or carrying shame.

She doesn’t need a theology degree. She doesn’t need a perfect life story. She just needs to see Him, and in that moment, her life changes. Jesus’ invitation is clear: it’s about a new way of living, rooted in grace, not rules.

This story isn’t just a story. It’s today. There are wells everywhere in our lives. Moments where we feel stuck, unseen, or unworthy. And Jesus is there, ready to offer life, ready to show grace, ready to invite anyone into something new. All it takes is to come and see, drink and live.

More of Jesus. Less of Me.

There’s a short line in the Bible where a guy named John says something brutally honest about life:

“He must increase, but I must decrease.”

In normal language?

More of Jesus. Less of me.

At first that sounds strange. Maybe even unhealthy.
We live in a world that constantly tells us the opposite.

Build your brand.
Promote yourself.
Protect your image.
Be the main character.

But if we’re honest… that approach isn’t really working.

People are more anxious than ever.
More exhausted.
More pressured to prove something.

Maybe the problem isn’t that we think too little of ourselves.

Maybe the problem is that everything revolves around us.


Life Gets Heavy When You’re the Center

Try being the center of your own universe for a while.

You have to hold everything together.
Your success defines you.
Your failures haunt you.
Your reputation feels fragile.

Every criticism stings.

Every comparison drains you.

Every setback feels like a verdict on your worth.

That’s a heavy way to live.

And most people don’t realize they’re doing it. It’s just normal. Or so we’ve been conditioned to believe.


The Story Behind the Line

The line “He must increase, but I must decrease” came from a moment where John’s followers thought things were going wrong.

John had become popular. People were listening to him. His movement was growing. Everyone was looking to him for answers as sort of the fresh view on ancient truths.

Then Jesus showed up. And suddenly people started leaving John to follow Jesus instead. John’s friends panicked.

“We’re losing people.”
“We’re losing momentum.”

But John didn’t see it that way at all. He basically said:

Relax. Life doesn’t belong to us anyway. Everything we have is something we’ve been given.

Our abilities.
Our opportunities.
Even the influence we have in other people’s lives.

None of it is really ours to control forever.

And once you realize that, something surprising happens. You stop gripping life so tightly.


The Lie We’re All Taught

Most of us have been trained to believe that life works like this:

If I can build the right life…
achieve enough…
earn enough…
be impressive enough…

then I’ll feel secure.

But people who reach those goals often discover something uncomfortable.

The pressure doesn’t go away.
It actually increases.

Because now you have something to protect.

That’s why so many people who “have it all” still feel restless.

Life wasn’t designed to revolve around us.


What Happens When Jesus Gets Bigger

John had figured something out most of us spend years learning.

When life revolves around you, it shrinks.

When life revolves around something (someone) bigger, it opens up.

For John, that something bigger was Jesus.

Not a philosophy.
Not a rule system.
A person.

Someone he believed came from God and showed people what God is actually like.

And John was strangely okay stepping out of the spotlight if it meant people could see Jesus more clearly.

That sounds backwards in our culture.

But it’s also strangely freeing.

Because if life isn’t about proving yourself anymore…

You can breathe.

You don’t have to win every argument.

You don’t have to impress everyone in the room.

You don’t have to carry the pressure of being your own savior.


You don’t have to be a church person either to recognize this tension.

Every human life eventually asks the same question:

Is this all about me…or is there something bigger going on?

Because if everything rests on you, that’s a huge weight to carry.

But if there really is a God who stepped into human history in Jesus, then life suddenly has a center that isn’t fragile.

And that changes how you live.

You can admit mistakes without collapsing.
You can be humble without feeling small.
You can care about people without competing with them.
You can actually experience peace.


A Simple Experiment

Try this for a week.

When your pride flares up.
When your stress spikes.
When you feel the need to prove something.

Pause and think:

More of Jesus. Less of me.

Not as a religious slogan.

As a bit of a reset.

Maybe life works better when everything doesn’t revolve around us.

Maybe the center we’re looking for isn’t inside us.

Maybe it’s the one John was pointing to all along.

And if that’s true…

More of Jesus. Less of me changes everything.

Come and See Your Need

There’s something unsettling about Ash Wednesday.

We walk forward. We kneel or maybe we stand. A thumb presses into our foreheads. Dust mixed with oil is smeared on us. And we hear words we spend the rest of the year trying to avoid:

You are dust, and to dust you shall return.

No filters. No catchy spin. No branding strategy. Just reality.

And if we’re honest, most of us don’t like reality when it strips us down that far.

We prefer curated strength. Polished faith. Manageable struggles. We want a Jesus who enhances our lives, not one who exposes how desperately we need Him.

But Ash Wednesday refuses to play that game.

The ashes are not there to shame us. They simply tell the truth. You are not self-sustaining. You are not invincible. You are not in control. Your body will age. Your strength will fade. Your plans will unravel. And beneath the busyness and bravado, you are more fragile than you’ll ever admit.

That’s not morbid. That’s merciful.

Because until we face our need, we will never reach for grace.

Lent begins when pretending ends.

It begins when the successful professional admits the anxiety is real. When the exhausted mom whispers that she can’t keep carrying it all. When the pastor confesses that he, too, wrestles with doubt and pride. When the teenager realizes popularity can’t quiet loneliness. When the strong one finally says, “I’m not okay.”

Ashes level us.

They remind us that sin isn’t just out there in the headlines. It’s in here in our impatience, ego, lust, greed, resentment, self-righteousness, comparison, secret bitterness. It’s in the subtle belief that we can manage life without daily surrender.

And the truth? We can’t.

We are dust. And dust doesn’t fix itself.

But there’s a whisper of beauty in the ashes of Ash Wednesday: the ashes are placed in the shape of a cross.

Death is spoken. But hope is outlined.

The same God who formed Adam from dust stepped into dust Himself. Jesus didn’t avoid our frailty. He took it on. He walked toward our mortality. He carried our sin. He entered our grave. Not symbolically. Actually.

Ash Wednesday tells the truth about us. Good Friday tells the truth about God.

He doesn’t recoil at our weakness. He moves toward it.

When the ashes mark your forehead, they are not just a reminder of what you are. They are a reminder of whose you are. You belong to the One who went into the ground and walked out again.

Lent is not a spiritual self-improvement program. It’s not about proving your devotion with stricter habits or impressive discipline. It’s about coming back to the basics:

I am dust.
I am a sinner.
I need a Savior.

And I have One.

Honest self-awareness opens the door to transformation. Not self-hatred. Not despair. But honesty. The kind that says, “Without Jesus, I am lost.” And the kind that hears Him whisper back, “With Me, you are found.”

Ash Wednesday is an invitation.

Come and see your need.

Not to wallow in it.
Not to be crushed by it.
But to let it lead you to the cross.

Because when you finally stop pretending you’re strong enough, you discover something better: Grace.

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